Sometimes, raising kids can feel like an online game. At times it is easy, and everything seems to be going your way. Then, all of a sudden—BAM! You start to lose everything you’ve won. Many times as our children grow, they regress to different points. For example, when you are potty training, you may find that you are making amazing progress. Your child is going to the bathroom on the potty all day, and doing great. Then, all of a sudden, one day they start having accidents again. This feels like a losing hand that you bet it all on. Don’t get discouraged, though. This is a common problem; almost all parents have to deal with it. Just keep working on the potty training, and eventually it will stick.
Sleeping through the night and dealing with the dark are two other areas that can feel like a winning situation, then all of a sudden you find out you are losing. Most kids will sleep through the night just fine once they reach a certain age. There will generally be periods through their development, though, that they decide that they would rather wake up.
Dealing with the dark is the same thing. For the longest time, your child may be fine with the dark, and then one day they tell you that they are afraid of the dark again. This can be a frustrating situation to deal with as a parent, and you may even need to resort to something like a night light for a while. These things are all normal, and though they may be stressful, you will soon find yourself “winning” again in the struggles of parenthood. Don’t give up, and remember to tell yourself that it is just a phase. Your child will get past the hurdles.
Hasn’t it happened all too often that you want to sit your kids down for a serious talk but they’d much rather something else? What’s worse, they sometimes even snap back at you. What can you do to grab their attention, long enough to get your message across?
First of all, make sure your kid is not hungry, tired or sleepy. Catching him in a bad mood is hardly the perfect time to talk to him about an important matter. Make sure he’s well-rested and in a fairly calm mood.
Try to lure him with his weakness. It could be a bucket of ice cream, or engaging him in conversation about his favorite basketball team. Again, the key is getting his attention.
Afterwards, you can gradually sneak in the topic you wish to bring up with him. He should be in a good enough mood to listen to you. Be sure to speak in a calm tone, as aggression will only elicit a negative response from your kid.
Kids do need respect from us too. If we give them that, they will unconsciously return the favor, and listen intently to what you have to say.
Changing times and shifting lifestyles lead to confusion and uncertainty in many families. This can lead to abuse of children and wives.
Family violence is a crime. It can be psychological or physical abuse of any family member, and ranges from insulting, threatening, yelling, grabbing, biting, hitting, punching, kicking to raping or even killing.
Some people are unable to discipline their children in a loving way. Because of a lack of knowledge and self-control, they abuse the child. Sometimes they repeat the bad experiences they had as children. Afterwards, they generally do not feel good about it. This damages their self-esteem – even their pride – and destroys the parent-child relationship.
Violence on children may result in lack of trust, permanent physical or mental damage to them, suicide attempts, and even death.
Wives may be abused by their husbands and vice versa. This can start with a small argument and end in a beating causing serious physical and emotional damage and possible marriage breakdown.
How do you avoid violence in your family?
Talk about your disagreements with a family member. And listen.
At all times, practice self-control
Always think positively. Think of your love for your family. They are part of you – your own flesh and blood.
If you cannot control your temper, seek the help of other people such as your own parents, relatives, or close friends. Otherwise, seek professional help.
If your feel angry, lonely, inadequate, resentful and disappointed, remember that other people also feel these things. Try not to resort to violence.
You can form group-therapy sessions if you want to change your behavior, such as group meetings of parents.
Do not be ashamed to seek advice from other family members and close friends.
Show love and respect to everyone in the family.
Source: Things Adults Can Do To Stay Healthy. World Health Organization