Category Archives: Occasion

A glimpse into motherhood

This is a repost-Mother’s Day entry. Originally, the questions were provided by a blogger friend to write something about motherhood based on the following questions…

This is just a glimpse of who I am as a mom I or what I think of motherhood based on my experience.  Here we go…

Who are you?

I’m Yami. I’m a stay-at-home mom, wife and (part time) blogger.

What is motherhood like?

Motherhood has changed my life forever.

When did you know you are ready for motherhood?

I’m already 26 when I got married. I thought it was the right age to have a baby and I can’t wait to give my husband the best gift that I can give him. I’m so excited that I can bear even the pungent after-taste of pregnancy vitamins…

What challenges did you face during the first years of being a mother?

I have to sleep late or wake up in the wee hours of the night to mix baby milk or change diapers and when they are under the weather. During the day, I have my mom and a yaya to look after my kids while we are at work. Yes, I used to be a working mom.

How many children do you have and do you want more?

I have two grown-up kids who are both taller than me now. We have no plans of having another baby because it’s no longer safe for my age and we can’t afford to support another child.

Update: I can no longer bear a child because of the reason I post here.

What’s the best thing in being mother/ parent?

The best part of being a parent is when you know you have raised your children the way you want them to be.

Is there anything you dislike about being a mother/parent?

I’m easy to anger. I really don’t like myself when I’m angry. I tend to spoil my kids. I also dislike myself when I can’t keep a promise to my kids sometimes..

Despite the high and low moments of being a mother or parent, there was never a moment that I regretted being a mom to my kids.

What advice would you give to new mothers?

Take each day with your new baby as it comes. Everything about motherhood comes naturally. Although there are books or elders to refer to once in a while, the best teacher will be you.

What are your plans for the future for you, your family?

We hope to give our children a better future.

For myself, I wish to receive more online opportunities to help augment the family income.

How I Danced with my Father at Last

When the flier came through for the Father Daughter Dance at our child’s school, I thought, oh no, here’s another expensive scholastic endeavor that’s one more reason to dig into my savings.  But I could tell by my daughter’s face that it meant a lot to her, so I called her father and told him that if he agreed, he better not back out this time.  In today’s hectic global society youngsters are constantly seeking examples of persons whom they seek to model their behavior and appearance after.  Most youngsters find that example in their dad.   And frequently those examples they are drawn to can fill us with fear and despair and anger if the adult doesn’t keep his word.  My daughter had been hurt by her father’s forgetfulness more than once.  But I was giving him another chance.

I even suggested he use a Groupon to buy a set of clothes for the occasion.  He checked out the site and found he really like the way they do business.  But he still wouldn’t commit to showing up.   One way adults can assure that their children have a good sense of identity and self is by providing them with examples from their own home life.  As her mother, I wanted to be sure her  father was dressed to look his best and suggested he shop online from Buckle, the longtime source of quality menswear.  From suits to shoes, shirts, ties and accessories, I knew he would find things to make him look his best.

The anticipation rose as the day drew nearer.  I was a little pissed off that he couldn’t show up a few days   early to go through a few steps with her just to boost her confidence.  She’ll be alright, he snarled into the phone when I called to discuss my concerns.  And my heart sank when he didn’t show up on time the night of the dance.  We had agreed to meet at the gymnasium to save time, and while I stood there, waiting impatiently, nearly ready to turn and go back home, he was laughing at me from the corner of the room.  He looked so different all dressed up that I couldn’t believe my eyes.  Gone were the Z Z Top like beard and shaggy hair.  In its place was the kind face that had melted my heart years ago.

There is nothing more touching than seeing a well-dressed father take his daughter out on the floor for her first dance.  For a moment, I imaged it was me, in the arms of my father.  And we relished every minute of the unforgettable night.