Category Archives: Parenting

Give Your Kids the Gift of Time

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Whenever special occasions come up, we rack our brains out, trying to figure out the best gift to give our loved ones, most especially our kids. The thing is, we don’t have to wait for a special occasion to give our kids the best gift possible – our time.

We parents do lead busy lives, what with having to juggle work and household chores. We should remember though, that if we want our kids to grow up mentally and emotionally healthy, we should carve out some time to be with them.

For example, if you are enrolled in school or an online degree program yourself, studying together at the table creates memories and bonds relationships.

We don’t need to do anything extravagant for them. They may not verbalize it, but our kids do appreciate it if we sit down to watch their favorite TV show with them, or stop to ask them about how they day in school went. All it takes is a few minutes each day. Set aside some time to do something with them, or listen to them. It will make them feel more loved, secure, and confident to take on the challenges of life.

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How to praise our kids

Here are some tips on how to say encouraging words to our kids. (I post this in 2011 and thought of re-posting it this year.)

HELPFUL PRAISE                                               UNHELPFUL PRAISE

“Thank you for polishing the floor,                      “You are truly mother’s little helper.”
it is so clean and shiny.”

“Thank you for washing the car,                          “You are an angel.”
it looks new again.”

“I liked you birthday card.                                    “You are always so thoughtful.”
It was so pretty and witty.”

“Your poem spoke to my heart.”                          “You are a good poet for your age.”

“The lantern you made looks beautiful.”             “You are such a good artist.”

“Your letter brought me great joy.”                      “When it comes to letters, you’re an A.”

“I appreciate your fixing the bed                          “You did a better job than Mommy.”
this morning.”

“Thanks for telling me that I still have                “You are such an honest child.”
a change. I appreciate it very much.”

“Your composition gave me a lot                          “You write well for your age.”
of new insights.”

“I appreciate your setting the table                     “You’re very helpful.”
while I cook dinner.”

*According to Dr. Haim G. Ginott in his book Between Parent and Child, the single most important rule in praising a child is that, praise deal only with child’s efforts and accomplishments, not with his character and personality. So, praise, like medicine must not be administered irregularly. Frame your words in such a way that the child will almost inevitably draw from them a realistic conclusion about his personality. – adapted from a magazine.

Personal Safety Tips for Children

anti-kidnap tips

This is an important list of safety tips I stumbled from the Internet today while searching for bassoons. I hope this could help fellow parents protect their children at all times.

The following safety tips are part of a practical guide on safety and survival handbook entitled ‘Tips on Public Safety and Women’s Self-Defense and Protection Handbook’ as part of the PNP (Philippine National Police) public service program.

DO’S

  • Keep your children within sight or hearing distance or place them in the care of responsible trustworthy adults.
  • Instruct your children never to admit strangers in your house.
  • Remind them to never talk to strangers.
  • Teach children as soon as they are able to learn when and how to alert police or neighbors.
  • Instruct children attending school to always travel in groups or pairs; use well-frequented streets; play in areas within the school grounds; refuse gifts from strangers; report such attempts or any molestation immediately to the nearest adult and to tell you about it as soon as possible; tell your children at all times where and whom they will be with when you or they are away from home; instruct your child to stay in the school campus until they are fetched by their school service vehicle or designated guardians.
  • Arrange with school authorities to contact you before releasing the child to the custody of anybody you have not previously authorized to pick up your child.
  • Warn your children, especially teenagers, not to accept rides from strangers.
  • Caution teenagers about ‘blind dates’ or meeting anyone they do not know or may have known only thru the internet.
  • Ensure that the children’s rooms are not easily accessible from outside the house.

DON’T’S

  • Do not allow the children to open the door especially at night.
  • Do not allow younger members of the family to open your mail.
  • Do not encourage young children to answer the telephone as they may unintentionally give out information which may be detrimental to you.

PNP Public Information Office head, Chief Supt. Wilben M. Mayor said the above child safety tips should be in the mind of every parent the whole year-round.

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