Our extended family will end the New Year with a heavy heart. My cousin died of cancer four days before Christmas day. We were devastated with her demise but somewhat prepared for the eventuality that she will be gone any day since her doctor informed her parents of her terminal condition last month (November). She was diagnosed with breast cancer in 2010. She underwent mastectomy to remove the early stage of cancer from her breast. But two years later, her doctor declared that she has stage IV cancer. The cancer cells from her breast were not really abated but have spread to her brain.

Despite the pains and rigors of cancer treatment, my cousin Cecil remains positive all through her battle with cancer. Even up to her last remaining days, we know that she is holding on to her life. She loves her family so much that despite being sick she still think of their welfare. I remember her saying, “Kailangan maging malakas ang loob ko para sa pamilya.”

My cousin was laid to rest at Himlayang Pilipino on December 27. Some relatives suggested VA cremation but the family wants her to be buried to somewhere not crowded.

Overcoming death in the family

Death is a part of life. Although most people are afraid to talk about it but it will eventually come to everyone so the best tip in overcoming sadness and mixed emotions is to be there with your love ones to support each other. Before overcoming it you may experience certain episodes like anger, anxiety, guilt, and depression phase. You have to keep in mind that looking forward doesn’t mean that you will be forgetting the one who died or no longer missed. It is hard but you have to continue going on for your other love ones and family. Talk about how you feel with someone who is close to your heart or find other ways to be an outlet of your emotions to relieve you of your sadness. Remember that eventually you can cope and still enjoy life after it.