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She will be surely missed

Our extended family will end the New Year with a heavy heart. My cousin died of cancer four days before Christmas day. We were devastated with her demise but somewhat prepared for the eventuality that she will be gone any day since her doctor informed her parents of her terminal condition last month (November). She was diagnosed with breast cancer in 2010. She underwent mastectomy to remove the early stage of cancer from her breast. But two years later, her doctor declared that she has stage IV cancer. The cancer cells from her breast were not really abated but have spread to her brain.

Despite the pains and rigors of cancer treatment, my cousin Cecil remains positive all through her battle with cancer. Even up to her last remaining days, we know that she is holding on to her life. She loves her family so much that despite being sick she still think of their welfare. I remember her saying, “Kailangan maging malakas ang loob ko para sa pamilya.”

My cousin was laid to rest at Himlayang Pilipino on December 27. Some relatives suggested VA cremation but the family wants her to be buried to somewhere not crowded.

Overcoming death in the family

Death is a part of life. Although most people are afraid to talk about it but it will eventually come to everyone so the best tip in overcoming sadness and mixed emotions is to be there with your love ones to support each other. Before overcoming it you may experience certain episodes like anger, anxiety, guilt, and depression phase. You have to keep in mind that looking forward doesn’t mean that you will be forgetting the one who died or no longer missed. It is hard but you have to continue going on for your other love ones and family. Talk about how you feel with someone who is close to your heart or find other ways to be an outlet of your emotions to relieve you of your sadness. Remember that eventually you can cope and still enjoy life after it.

Every day is a blessing


I’ve been writing about my cousin Cez here and in my other blogs since she was diagnosed with breast cancer in 2010. Despite her condition and struggles with the treatment she still possesses that positive attitude in life. I could be whining with a lot of things that beset me everyday but here is the person with a lot bigger problem than I am and still remain positive that she’ll be healed one day. Last June 28 was her 46th birthday and I called her up to greet her. It’s been a while since we last saw each other. What she tells me struck a chord master with me. She said she is thankful that she wakes up every day, she feels the love of her love ones and that she can still go to work. She’s an amazing person and deserve all the best things in life.

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Praying for God’s healing

I’m writing this with a heavy heart. My mother just informed me about the worsening condition of my cousin Cez whose story I wrote here. According to Nanay, my cousin’s breast cancer has spread to her brain. It deeply saddens me that after all the medical intervention to treat her breast cancer in 2010, cancer cells were  not really abated but have spread to her brain. She has yet to undergo another set of chemotherapy for this.

Cez and I grew up like real sisters. She’s my first cousin from my mother’s side of the family. We attended the same school and have several common friends. Although we argue on a lot of things when we were younger, I still look up to her as an older sister because I guess she’s wiser and practical than I am.

I don’t know if I can put on a brave face when I see her, but knowing myself I would surely cry.

I may not ease her pain, but I can say a prayer for her healing. If anyone reads this post, may I also request you to offer a prayer for my cousin. Please include her in your prayer…thank you…